Practical resources for ADHD relationships
You can't change your partner.You can change how you respond.
When ADHD affects a relationship, it's natural to focus on what your partner could do differently. The part you actually have control over is your own.
These practical guides and tools are designed to help you notice your own patterns, say what you need more clearly and approach familiar difficulties differently.
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A practical guide
The ADHD
Relationship
Toolkit
When you understand the ADHD. But still don't know what to do.
The ADHD Relationship Toolkit
Does this sound familiar?
Waiting for things to change
You've hoped things would improve once your partner understood, tried harder or changed.
The same reactions
You know how disagreements start, but still find yourself responding the same way.
Explaining, again
You've explained how you feel many times, and it hasn't made much difference.
All about them
You've read a lot about your partner's ADHD, but very little about what you can do differently.
Trying to change someone else is exhausting. Changing your own approach is where you can start.
Introducing
The ADHD Relationship Toolkit
When you understand the ADHD. But still don't know what to do.
A practical downloadable guide focused on the part of the relationship you can change: your own responses. It's designed to help you move from understanding ADHD to action — noticing your own patterns, preparing for difficult conversations and asking clearly for what you need.
It's less about why your partner does what they do, and more about what you can do: what to notice in yourself, what you actually need, and how to raise things before they become the next argument.
What you get
£9introductory launch price
- 10 chapters
- 19 practical conversation scripts
- The Notice. Need. Ask. framework
- A weekly relationship check-in
- Practical exercises and reflection questions
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What's inside?
Practical tools for changing your side of the pattern.
Understand your own responses
Notice how analysing, explaining or avoiding difficult moments can keep familiar patterns going — and what you could do instead.
Change how you raise things
Use practical prompts and scripts to approach difficult subjects more calmly and clearly.
Ask for what you need
Work out your own requests, accommodations and boundaries, without assuming one partner must carry all the responsibility.
Build small habits of your own
Use structured check-ins and exercises to keep changes going in a way that's realistic for you.
The guide doesn't promise to fix a relationship, change anyone else's behaviour or guarantee any outcome. It's a set of tools for changing your own approach.
How it works
- 1
Download the guide
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- 2
Look at your own side
Read at your own pace and work through the questions about your own responses and needs.
- 3
Try something different
Use the scripts and exercises in your own conversations, where they suit your circumstances.
Who is it for?
For partners ready to focus on their own side.
The guide is written for adults who have a partner with ADHD and have found that waiting for the other person to change isn't working. It focuses on your own responses, habits and requests.
Focusing on yourself doesn't mean the problems are your fault, or that your needs matter less. Both people's needs matter — this is simply the part you can work on today.
It may also be useful for couples reading together, particularly the weekly check-in and conversation scripts.
The only part you can change is yours.That's where this starts.
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The ADHD Relationship Toolkit
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