A downloadable PDF guide
The ADHD Relationship Toolkit
When you understand the ADHD. But still don't know what to do.
A practical guide for when you've read the explanations and you're still waiting for things to change. Rather than focusing on your partner, it's designed to help you look at your own responses, prepare for difficult conversations and ask clearly for what you need.
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A practical guide
The ADHD
Relationship
Toolkit
When you understand the ADHD. But still don't know what to do.
The ADHD Relationship Toolkit
The problem it addresses
Learning about ADHD can explain a lot about your partner. It doesn't decide how you respond the next time the same thing happens.
It's easy to put your energy into explaining, analysing and expecting your partner will change, and for that to feel like progress. This guide turns the focus to the part you can change: what you notice in yourself, what you need, and how you raise things before they become the next argument.
Who it's for
It may be useful if…
- You care about your partner but often feel disconnected.
- You've spent a long time hoping your partner will change, and it's wearing you down.
- The same arguments keep coming back, and you react the same way each time.
- You're not sure how to raise difficult subjects without it turning into a fight.
- You're unsure about boundaries, accommodations and what's reasonable to expect.
- You want to focus on what you can do, not on what your partner should do.
What's inside
Practical material for changing your own approach.
10 chapters
Short, practical chapters on communication, conflict, reconnecting and the habits that keep familiar patterns going.
19 practical conversation scripts
Starting points for the conversations that are hardest to begin. Written to be adapted to your own words, not recited.
The Notice. Need. Ask. framework
A simple way to prepare before you speak: notice what's going on for you, work out what you need, then ask for it plainly.
A weekly relationship check-in
A short, structured conversation for raising things while they're still small, rather than waiting until they aren't.
Practical exercises and reflection questions
Prompts to help you look honestly at your own part, without deciding that everything is your fault.
The framework at the centre of the guide
Notice.
What's actually going on for you, before you react to it.
Need.
What you need in this situation — as specifically as you can put it.
Ask.
A clear, plain request, rather than a hint, a complaint or a test.
What it can help with
Understand your own responses
Notice how analysing, explaining or avoiding difficult moments can keep familiar patterns going — and what you could do instead.
Change how you raise things
Use practical prompts and scripts to approach difficult subjects more calmly and clearly.
Ask for what you need
Work out your own requests, accommodations and boundaries, without assuming one partner must carry all the responsibility.
Build small habits of your own
Use structured check-ins and exercises to keep changes going in a way that's realistic for you.
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The ADHD Relationship Toolkit
10 chapters · 19 conversation scripts · Notice. Need. Ask. · Weekly check-in · Exercises and reflection questions
Disclaimer
The ADHD Relationship Toolkit is an educational and reflective resource. It isn't medical advice, diagnosis, counselling or therapy, and it isn't written by a clinician or ADHD specialist. It can't promise to resolve conflict or change anyone's behaviour. If you're experiencing abuse, coercion or anything that feels unsafe, please contact a qualified professional or a support service. Full disclaimer.
The ADHD Relationship Toolkit
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